I am surprised how many ofmy male friends tell the same story. They work. They provide. They protect. All the while, they are sleeping in separate bedrooms and the wife hasn't touched them in so long. The only relief he has is from self pleasure in the shower or at the gym.Pretending to family and friends that everything is fine but you are suffering in silence. Maybe even crying some night because you are so unhappy. I am a good listener. I am Also a good escape.